I purchased my XDM-9 in December of 2008 and so far have been pleased in it's performance. So far I have just over 3000 shots fired and it has not choked during "normal" firing. I had some issues while shooting from retention with some 115gr FMJ but shooting with 124gr+P JHPS resulted in no issues.
While the gun is on the large side, it is not the mammoth that some make it out to be and is not "too big" to carry concealed if one is determined to dress around the gun.
While I don't have any pictures of me concealing the gun, here are some reference pictures so show actual size of the gun.
These are taken from a post on HandgunForum.net:
So one of the reasons that I was hesitant about picking up the XDM is that a lot of people were commenting that it would be too large for CCW, I compared them in store to several guns that I carry on a routine basis and in some cases it was smaller, but in the few cases where it was larger, it wasn't much larger.
Here's some pics I took this evening, you can get a general idea of dimensions from the mat.
Note that I align guns by the trigger guards, when you think about it, it's basically the one aspect of most guns that are similar and gives a better visual of actual size difference.
Now up until recently, my main carry gun had often been a 5" 1911, while the XDM has over twice the capacity of a 1911, size wise it's actually smaller than my Les Baer as shown.
(Sorry about the finger, but due to the slide profile of the "M" slide, it liked to tilt grip up when laying down)
Side by side, standard thickness grips on the 1911.
The "M" is not as thick as I thought...